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Practicing pleasure as a means of emotional survival.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Reconnect with friends

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● May 12, 2023 May 10, 2023

When intimacy holds up despite time and distance.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Support trans joy

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● April 7, 2023 April 3, 2023

How to help as trans people face unrelenting attacks across the country.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Make it cute!

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● March 17, 2023 March 16, 2023

The value of embracing adorable things.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Black joy

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● February 17, 2023 February 17, 2023

“We recognize that pleasure is an experience of freedom and also a measure of it.”

An illustration shows the face of the column's author, Dr. Sami Schalk, smiling against a rainbow background. In the foreground are a sandwich, a cup holding a steaming hot beverage, and a stack of books on which the text "Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk" appears. Two candles sit on top of the books. Illustration by Rodney Lambright II.

Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Spice up your life

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● January 20, 2023 January 19, 2023

In these winter doldrums, reach for a flavorful kick.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Lean into lights

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● December 9, 2022 December 9, 2022

Embracing the comfy cozy glow of the holiday season.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Countdown calendars and daily delights

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● November 18, 2022 November 16, 2022

Many twists on an advent tradition, for you and those you love.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Apple sitting

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● October 21, 2022 October 19, 2022

A leisurely fall trip to the orchard, plus a pie recipe.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Embrace your inner child

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● September 23, 2022 September 21, 2022

Periwinkle Chiffon Sparkles and other profound sources of comfort.

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Pleasure Practices with Sami Schalk: Mood music and deep listens

By Sami Schalk ● Pleasure Practices ● August 26, 2022 August 24, 2022

Pleasure activism isn’t just about happiness—it’s about deeper feeling and fulfillment.