Oral History: In 2017, I needed to have abdominal surgery

“I was so humiliated to have my husband come to my pre-op appointment just to sign a permission slip for me to longer be able to become pregnant.”

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Below is a verbatim account from Lori:

In 2017, I needed to have abdominal surgery. I requested that my surgeon would also remove my fallopian tubes so I would no longer need to take birth control. Because I am married the hospital required my husband to sign approval for the additional procedure. I was so humiliated to have my husband come to my pre-op appointment just to sign a permission slip for me to longer be able to become pregnant. I asked the nurse if my husband would have needed my signature to have a vasectomy and was told no.

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