Oral History: I’m a 40-year-old female single mother of three children

“I felt as though I had only one choice at this point and it was to end my third pregnancy.”
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Below is a verbatim account from anonymous:

I’m a 40-year-old female single mother of three children. At the age of 28 I already had two children under the age of two years old. I couldn’t support myself and them financially. So we lived with my mother. Needless to say, my mother wasn’t happy with me having a second child in my situation. To the point of threatening to kick us out on the streets. As well as my second delivery was extremely problematic and dangerous. We both almost passed away during the process. Then I became pregnant again due to a failure in my birth control methods. I felt as though I had only one choice at this point and it was to end my third pregnancy. I believe that is my choice and should be my right as it is my body and all of our (my children and myself) futures at stake.

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