Oral History: I was a college student, and I had a steady boyfriend, although—we had not actually used the words boyfriend and girlfriend yet

“I’m so grateful that I had access to that at a point where I was not ready to start a family.”
Illustration by Maggie Denman.

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Below is a verbatim account from anonymous:

I was a college student, and I had a steady boyfriend, although—we had not actually used the words boyfriend and girlfriend yet. And I remember, um, figuring out over Christmas that I was pregnant, because I was having morning sickness. And I was home with my family but I didn’t feel like I could share what was going on. And then in January we went to Planned Parenthood and had an abortion. And I remember they asked me who was with me, and I turned to the guy, and was like, can I call you my boyfriend? And he was like, I think you can. And that was sort of our moment where we became an official boyfriend and girlfriend. 

And um, you know I don’t remember much about the abortion itself. But, I think about it every once in a while, but it’s not a decision that I regret. I’m so grateful that I had access to that at a point where I was not ready to start a family, and was not in a committed relationship, so. And I wish that we could give that to everybody. Everybody deserves that for whatever reason, whatever personal reason they have.

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